One common mistake that women make is in expecting men to take
the lead in establishing a relationship. While true to the ideal, these days
passively taking what comes along often results in women wishing to be taken in
hand all too often dating aggressive – even predatory – wolves rather than
assertive men. Smooth talkers do not always make for good husbands or even
decent friends!
A second mistake that women make is in trying to trade up in
men. According to a recent Loveawake dating site study, having found one man capable of satisfying their needs, 60% of married women want to
find someone better. Since the grass tends to appear greener on the other side
of the fence, once women jump over the fence – so to speak – that which they
left often appears to be better than their new relationship. This leads to
regrets and confusion in that the woman begins to doubt her ability to judge
men.
A third mistake is – made more by men than by women, but which
can seriously affect a relationship if made by the woman – in expecting too much
too soon. Patience in relationships is a virtue. Impatience in relationship can
be deadly to relationships – or even in finding someone with whom to establish
a relationship.
A fourth mistake is – made by men as much as women – in trying
to change the rules of the relationship after the wedding. This nasty little
surprise has wrecked more marriages than seashells on the seashore. Like trying
to trade up in men, past failed relationships can adversely affect a woman's
ability to adequately appraise men.
A little honesty can go a long way in improving one's chances
for success. Conversely, someone incapable of appreciating honesty also lacks
the empathy necessary for a long-term relationship.
To establish a workable relationship, a woman needs to look for
a man who really wants her as a person. Acceptance is as much of the
formulation for a satisfactory relationship as being taken in hand for an
old-fashioned straightening out. Some aspects of a woman's personality are not
amenable to altering by thrashing.
Conversely, even among dire warnings to the contrary, the
courageous man is seldom totally averse to soundly smacking the bottom of a
woman whom he really wants to keep if he finds her behavior detrimental to
their relationship.
Still, there are no perfect men any more than there are perfect
women in this world. As more than a few wise observers have pointed out, “If
you found the truly perfect man [or woman] would he [or she] really want to
have anything to do with you?”
Good marriages are made. Spontaneous generation of first-class
marriages is about as common as the spontaneous generation of viable life
forms! Marriages supposedly made in heaven require a tremendous amount of work
on earth.
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